Teen Says Her ‘Extrovert’ Mom Insists on Celebrating Her Graduation, Despite Her Pleas Not to: ‘I Don’t Like Parties'
The 18-year-old, who shared her story on Reddit, said that the conversation "ended up becoming a yelling match"
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Graduation party (stock image)A teen who "doesn't like parties" says her "extrovert" mom plans to throw her a big high school graduation celebration
The teen says the conversation with her mother about having the celebration “ended up becoming a yelling match”
The 18-year-old is now seeking advice from fellow Redditors to see if she should apologize to her mom
A teen says that her “extrovert” mom is insisting she have a high school graduation party, despite the fact that she doesn’t want one.
The 18-year-old recently detailed her story on Reddit’s ‘Am I the A------” forum to seek outside opinions and advice. In her post, the teen — who describes herself as a “big introvert — explained that she is graduating in May.
She said that she made it clear to her mom, who she noted “loves going out and planning parties,” that she did not want a graduation celebration as “I don’t like parties or large crowds.” However, the original poster (OP) shared that her mom went ahead and planned a party anyway, and when the OP “got upset,” she claimed her mom merely said, “It’s already paid for, you’re getting one.”
The Redditor added that the conversation “ended up becoming a yelling match,” and that she ultimately “got upset and stormed out of the room.”
“Am I the a------ for yelling at my mom for doing this?? Do I HAVE to apologize?” she asked at the end of her post.
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Son and mom at graduation party (stock image)The teen’s fellow Reddit users were quick to assure her that she had every right to feel angry in this situation — with one even suggesting that she skip the party entirely.
“NTA [not the a------],” wrote one person. “Don't show up. Leave if it's at your place. She can throw a party, but unless she plans to tie you to a chair, you don't have to attend. Then she can spend her time explaining to her guest why the guest of Honor isn't there. Maybe it will make her think twice next time.”
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Another commenter said that while they think the OP’s feelings are justified, there was likely a better way to handle the conflict.
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The user wrote: “NTA. You could have handled it without the yelling, sure, but you'd also made it clear multiple times that you didn't want a party and she did it anyway and then made it seem like you had no choice in the matter. I can completely see why you got so frustrated you lost control. If you said anything you regret during that argument, [apologize] for that specific thing. Otherwise, don't [apologize].”
Another person acknowledged that while the OP’s mother “was disrespectful” in not honoring her wishes, there might be some good reasons to suck it up and attend the party without complaint.
“If you don’t show up for the party are you ready for the s--- storm that will follow?” they asked, adding, “Are you living at home? Is your mother paying for your college?”
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They continued: “Let her have her little party and consider your attendance as payment for all the living expenses she is covering since you are now an adult. Consider it practice for the real world when you will have to attend work functions you don’t want to. Use it to hone your social skills. While you may not enjoy the social aspects of the party, you may enjoy the food and music and your close group of friends.”
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