My girlfriend's athletic exes have given me an inferiority complex

I have been with this great girl over the past five months, but just yesterday it came to light that her ex was an Olympic swimmer and the ex before that was a professional NFL player. I’m outgoing and active, but in no way a professional athlete. I have always considered myself quite confident, but for the first time in my life I find myself with an inferiority complex. Worse still, I now feel conflicted about things I used to feel confident about before these revelations. I love this girl and I’m sure she loves me. I just want to know how to get over this and move on.

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