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Mandy Moore’s Ex-Husband Ryan Adams Responds to Accusations of Harassment and Emotional Abuse

Photo credit: Jason LaVeris - Getty Images
Photo credit: Jason LaVeris - Getty Images

From Cosmopolitan

  • Seven women, including Mandy Moore, accused Ryan Adams of emotional abuse and harassment back in February.

  • Ryan just posted an Instagram responding to the claims.


Sorry to bring down your Sunday vibes, but let’s talk about Mandy Moore’s ex-husband, singer-songwriter Ryan Adams, who was accused of emotional abuse and harassment by six women in The New York Times a couple of months ago.

Mandy also came forward about the psychological abuse she says she experienced while dating and being married to Ryan, saying, “What you experience with him—the treatment, the destructive, manic sort of back and forth behavior—feels so exclusive. You feel like there’s no way other people have been treated like this.” She said that he would take things out on her in a “psychologically abusive” manner and “could wield his influence in damaging ways.”

The exposé was published back in February, but Ryan is only now breaking his silence about the allegations. He posted an Instagram yesterday with a very long caption that said, among other things, “I have a lot to say. I am going to. Soon. Because the truth matters. It’s what matters most. I know who I am. What I am. It’s time people know. Past time...All the beauty in a life cannot be reduced to rubble for confusion, ignoring truths that destroy all the good in us. This madness and misunderstanding.”

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“I have a lot to say. I am going to. Soon. Because the truth matters. It’s what matters most. I know who I am. What I am. It's time people know. Past time. All the beauty in a life cannot be reduced to rubble for confusion, ignoring truths that destroy all the good in us. This madness and misunderstanding. There’s enough of that in this world My work was always meant to be a map for the lost. I’ve tried my best to be open and accountable. Not a billboard. I mean, maybe for being flawed. I’ve always wanted to help. I’m trying. So, soon... because it’s time to get back to what I do best. I’m here for the music, for the love and for making things better. I didn’t have an easy life. I lost my brother the day the Prisoner Tour ended. Every night wondering if he would be alive. He was proud of me. My family and my friends were there for that. And so many great fans. For the Meineres community who suffer every day. This music was for then. It mattered. And that was always for it to help. So let’s do that. THAT will matter. The amends made and things lost in the noise, that should’ve mattered too. I want to be a part of that healing. To go play have some great shows and put out these badass records. Believe Women. Believe Truth. But never give up on being part of solutions, and healing. I’ve lost friends who have passed away in this time of self reflection and silence. I can’t be like that. There’s been too much that mattered. Thank you for your kindness, your support and for this time I needed to decide how I could be a part of a better tomorrow for everybody. Sometimes that peace comes from opening yourself up. That’s who I want to be. Here’s to that. With love and with faith- In all of us and our best and our faults RA

A post shared by Ryan Adams (@ryanadams) on Jul 20, 2019 at 12:11am PDT

His caption also included, “Believe Women. Believe Truth,” which seems...a bit disingenuous here. Mandy has yet to respond to Ryan’s statement, but IMO, if seven people come forward to accuse you of being “controlling” and “emotionally abusive,” and a team of journalists verify their stories, it’s likely not a “misunderstanding.” It feels like he’s pitting “women” and the “truth” against each other, no?

Of course, this is a complicated moment in culture where the public figures who were accused of inappropriate behavior, sexual assault, and abuse in the #MeToo movement are trying to figure out how to move forward (see: Aziz Ansari’s recent apology). We can all agree that writing off and denying claims is not the best way forward. Men need to take responsibility for their actions and figure out what accountability looks like for their specific situation—and it doesn’t seem like that’s something Ryan wants to do.

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