“He’s downstairs and I’m upstairs in my private mum-cave, and I’m telling you guys it’s a little slice of heaven.”
OK, here it goes… my husband and I sleep in separate rooms.
He’s downstairs and I’m upstairs in my private mum-cave, and I’m telling you guys it’s a little slice of heaven.
Because I don’t like sharing a bed — with anyone.
Their breathing, their moving, their hogging of the covers, their trips to the bathroom wake me up, and once I’m awake, I’m awake. There’s no settling back in and drifting off to sleep again for me.
“For 10 years I’ve had my own room”
So, for all 10 years of our marriage, I’ve had my own room.
I feel like this is something I needed to get off my chest because people can get really weird about it.
I get the “Oh” look. Like my marriage is one step away from separate houses and eventually separate lives.
But, I promise you, I think this helps our marriage if anything.
“What about sex?”
“But what about cuddling? What about SEX?” they ask. People are very, overly concerned about our sex life.
Let me tell you, few parents are waking up at 2 am after a long day with the kids and rolling over for some sexy time.
Sleep is when most of us mums be like, “This is the one time of day when no one’s touching me! Stay on your own side!”
So, we cuddle and “whatever” and then say, “Goodnight, honey!” and we go to our different rooms and that’s that.
“Every couple is different”
I share this because I don’t believe any marriage needs to be a certain way to be successful. If you like sleeping side-by side with your significant other and that gives you comfort, that’s great, too.
Every couple is different and has different needs and as long as everyone is comfortable with the arrangement, go for it.
So, what if my aunt Susan thinks it’s concerning when I gave her a tour of my house and said, “This is the kitchen, this is the living room, this is my husband’s room, and I live in that sanctuary upstairs.” Who cares?
You do not need to defend your relationship to anyone.
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