Everything You Need to Know About Dating a Libra Man
Astrology can help us understand more about ourselves and the people we love/date/hopelessly crush on—no matter their gender. For more deets on Libra compatibility, check out our guide to dating a Libra woman and our gender-neutral guide to dating a Libra.
There are just a few basics that need to be explored when you first start dating someone. Where is he from? What does he do for a living? Oh, and most definitely, when’s his birthday? This isn’t just for remembering when to send that “happy b-day:)” text! Knowing a potential boo’s zodiac sign can really help in understanding his behavior. Astrology helps us break down personality traits, pet peeves, and, yes, even dating patterns. It can be fun and informative to look up his sign and see how yours works with his.
If you’re dating, Insta sleuthing (hi, guilty), or just fantasizing over a Libra man, we’re here to help you navigate one of the most alluring signs. These complex beings are stylish, flirtatious, and charming AF—in fact, they’re so charming it’s sometimes hard to tell what they’re really thinking. And TBH, they might not even know! Libras are notoriously indecisive, after all.
Luckily, astrology allows us to decipher personality traits, pet peeves, and so much more. And trust me when I say, there is sooo much more to a Libra man than you initially realized.
But fiurst, a little bit more about Sun signs. Your Sun sign is determined by where the Sun was in the sky when you were born. It's your "main" zodiac sign, the one that you answer when people ask "What's your sign?" In astrology, it represents your core identity and life path. You also have a whole birth chart, describing where the Moon and all the planets were when you were born—plus various points in the sky like your Rising sign, aka the zodiac sign that was on the horizon when you were born. You might find it helpful to read this guide to get more info about a man with a Libra Moon, Libra Rising, or other significant Libra placements (like his Mars or Venus sign), even if his Sun sign isn't Libra—and of course, this is a super helpful guide to understanding Libra Suns, too. Basically, if he's got ~Libra vibes~, read on.
The Libra Basics
Birthday: September 23 to October 22
Modality: Cardinal
Element: Air
Ruling planet: Venus
Represented by: The scales
Tarot card: Justice
Best crystals: Blue lace agate, opal, tiger's eye, pyrite, amethyst
Rules this body part: Kidneys, lower back, skin, butt
Keywords: Romantic, charming, intellectual, flirtatious, polite, indecisive, diplomatic, social, artistic, creative, gossipy, smart
Best traits: Charming, witty, smart, flirty, romantic
Worst traits: Noncommittal, indecisive, superficial, untrustworthy
Love anthem: "Kiss Me More"by Doja Cat featuring SZA
Watch this romance movie together: Clueless (1995), directed by Amy Heckerling
Famous Libra men: Donald Glover, Zac Efron, Ryan Reynolds, Will Smith, John Mayer, Snoop Dogg, Hugh Jackman, John Krasinski, Matt Damon, Nick Cannon, Bruce Springsteen, Bruno Mars, Usher, Lil Wayne, Tyler Posey, Noah Schnapp, Caleb McLaughlin, Eminem, Jimin, 21 Savage, Ne-Yo, A$AP Rocky, T-Pain, Josh Hutcherson, Ben Platt, Anthony Mackie
A Libra Man's Best Traits
A Libra man is charismatic, charming, and flirtatious. He really makes you feel like you're the center of his universe—whether you've just met or have been dating for years. He's funny, smart, and always knows just the right thing to say—he's just fun to be around! And he has the friends and popularity to prove it. A Libra man is a true social butterfly, and when you're with him, you're flying just as high.
A Libra Man's Worst Traits
The thing about a Libra man is that as sparkly as his surface is, eventually you're going to want to get deeper...and he might not let you. At their worst, Libras can be noncommittal, detached, and even two-faced, telling your secrets to others immediately after you confided in them.
The Best Matches for a Libra Man
Fiery Leo is a great match for Libra! Leos' artistic nature is fascinating to Libras, and both love to be gushy when it comes to romance. For similar reasons, Aries is a great match for Libra, too. Sure, they’re technically opposite signs, but Aries is unique, upbeat, and a cardinal sign just like Libra, so the two of them are never bored with each other.
Libra also vibes well with fellow air signs Gemini and Aquarius. They are all quick-witted, playful, curious, and just get each other. And like Libra, Taurus is ruled by Venus, so these signs share a love of pleasure and beauty—they're probably the most stylish couple around (and have an incredible sex life too).
Libra can also get a lot out of a relationship with Sagittarius. Both signs are perpetually curious, adventurous, and ready to explore. Finally, who better for a Libra than another Libra? Talk about a power couple!
The Worst Matches for a Libra Man
A Libra might find it a bit harder to get along with a Capricorn—Caps are just so serious, while Libras want to have fun! Caps also love to plan ahead—like, creating a v. detailed 15-year-plan—while Libras tend to be a bit more spontaneous, so you'll have to find a balance (which is Libra's thing, anyway).
Also, emotional Cancer might find Libra to be so people-pleasing that they're inauthentic, while Libra might think Cancer need to lighten up a bit—so Libra should try to be their most authentic self with Cancer, and Cancer should strive to be less judgmental of how Libra might act different ways with different friend groups—they're just naturally diplomatic and know how to fit in! Similarly, Libra can struggle to connect with water sign Scorpio. Scorpio really values their privacy and is one of the most guarded signs, so they can clash with gossipy, super-social Libra.
Astrological incompatibility doesn't mean that you can't have an ah-mazing relationship though—you might just have to put in a bit more effort to really understand each other, and find a compromise to meet each other's needs. If you're a Cap or a Cancer, you can still vibe with a Libra—especially if your Moon signs or other parts of your birth chart are compatible. And TBH, ~astrological tension~ can also lead to ~sexual tension~, so there's something to be said for "incompatibility"!
Sex With a Libra Man
Libra is ruled by Venus, which is the planet of love, beauty, and pleasure. Translation: They’re super romantic and incredible in bed. They also take foreplay just as seriously as sex itself—they love teasing their partners. Libras are also very ~visual~ people, so they appreciate it when you dress up for them (in lingerie, yes, but also just in a hot AF fit), live for nudes (both sending and receiving—there's no dirty laundry on the floor in the backgrounds of their dick pics!), and might even paint an artistic nude portrait of you, Leonardo-DiCaprio-in-Titanic-style.
BTW, in astrology, Libra rules the kidneys, skin, and buttocks, sooooo your Libra guy may be v. into butt stuff—giving or receiving or both. Have fun and don't forget the lube!
A First Date with a Libra Man
Do *not*, I repeat, do *not* suggest a "Netflix and chill" date to a Libra. These social signs want to go out out! If you really want to charm a Libra, take them to the hottest hotspot or a sparkly new restaurant/bar/art gallery/etc. Libras want to see and be seen! Just one thing: They're not the best at making decisions, so you might have to plan the date yourself.
A Relationship with a Libra Man
Being in a relationship with a Libra man is like being part of a power couple. His shine reflects on you, and yours reflects on him. Hopefully you can keep up with him! But really, he's got a packed social calendar and a seemingly never-ending social butterfly. This is why Libra meshes so well with other outgoing signs like Gemini and Leo and can struggle to make it longerterm with homebody signs like Cancer.
A Libra Man in Love
Once a Libra is in love with you, you see a whole other side to him. Finally, he lets down some of his walls and you can see his inner self. See, underneath all that bravado are some real insecurities and hurts, and you have to earn his trust before he lets you see them.
A Libra Man at Home
Libra is known for being a stylish, creative sign, so your Libra date's home will definitely have a point of view. Whatever your Libra's favored aesthetic, you'll see no boring white walls here! If anything, a Libra's home tends to be just a little bit cluttered, because they have such a hard time throwing anything out.
A Libra Man at the Office
Libra is a born diplomat, which means you can always find them smoothing over miscommunications and ruffled feathers in the workplace. They seem professional on the surface, but if you're lucky enough to be a Libra's work bestie, you'll discover that they know the juiciest office gossip. Libra is also *the* sign of justice, which means they care a lot about fairness and equality. You'll likely find them joining your workplace's union organizing committee.
A Libra Man with Friends
These air signs are social butterflies, and they have a huge circle of friendly acquaintances. But if you make it into a Libra's inner circle, you'll get to see a special side of them. Libras will gossip with anyone, but if you've really made it into their inner circle, they'll keep your secrets like no one else. Just make sure you know where you stand with them before you spill your guts!
A Gift for a Libra Man
One thing about Libras is they love a trend! Whatever the latest cocktail, decor style, or accessory of the moment is, go ahead and get him it—just make sure he hasn't already splurged on it himself. Nothing comes to mind? Treat your Libra to a ~cultural experience~ like a concert, museum trip, or a night out to a fancy restaurant—your treat.
All About Libra
Libra is the seventh sign of the zodiac, and like the set of scales they’re represented by, Libras have an innate sense of balance and strive for harmony. They’re also motivated to start conversations and instigate action in social settings, thanks to being a cardinal sign. Your Libra man is an expert communicator, always knowing the perfect thing to say in any situation to come off as diplomatic, tactful, and charismatic. He’ll make you laugh and become besties with your besties. And he’s definitely the guy you want to take home to meet the ’rents, and you’ll be confident they’ll love him.
Libra is one of two signs ruled by Venus, planet of love, pleasure, and relationships. Libra, being an air sign, is filled to the brim with romantic thoughts and loves to share them. He has a soft, gentle, and nonthreatening Venusian vibe, with great taste in fashion and art to boot. He usually moves in a graceful way, but when the balance is off, it is off! If he’s caught off guard or surprised, his demeanor immediately becomes clumsy and nervous! Honestly, though, it’s kind of cute.
Libras are known to be indecisive, weighing every option very carefully to find the best one before making a commitment. This can be a hassle sometimes, but it stems from his open-mindedness and willingness to find a solution. He’s the best guy for finding a silver lining to every cloud, no matter how dark or stormy it appears to be. His natural optimism is one of the main reasons he’s such a great partner to have—he always has the perfect advice to give, ice breaker to strike up a conversation, or witty one-liner to make the whole room laugh.
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Being the sign of relationships, your Libra guy is hella social and has a ton of friends, but everything you do is as a partnership. He’s so relationship-focused that it could feel as if you’re joined at the hip sometimes, but he also turns every outing into an exciting and romantic experience with his charm and silliness. He truly treats you as an equal (if not someone better than him) and is super accommodating, especially when it comes to the bedroom. Not only is he putting your needs before his, but he’s also open to kinks and new positions. Variety is the spice of life for him, and he’ll try anything once.
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His fun-loving, flexible nature can get annoying, however, when you feel like he’s actually inconsistent. Libras can come off as shallow and uncommitted in the early stages of dating—he can be your Romeo at first but then ghost you in the blink of an eye. And then right when you think he’s over you, he’s back, charming as ever and acting as if he never went anywhere. He’s open-minded and openhearted, which can be a good thing if you’re actually dating him, but when he’s too busy debating if he actually likes you or not to commit, he can put you through a lot emotionally.
Geminis have the reputation as the zodiac’s most two-faced sign, but Libra is more than capable of stealing that title! He changes his tone and mannerisms in order to be well liked by everyone around him. His ability as a master wordsmith is a huge asset but also potentially his worst trait, as his words drip with honey when he’s with a crowd but his silver tongue can turn sharp if the two of you get into an argument. He’ll rebalance eventually and go back to being sweet, but you might not move on as easily.
Once you lock down a committed relationship with a Libra (which is half the work, honestly), the real challenge is handling his need to please and tendency to talk for hours. He’s a chatterbox who can exhaust someone who thrives in silence, especially when he presents a dilemma, asks your opinion, challenges it until you agree with him, and expects you to defend his original opinion! It’s a wild dance you have to keep up with, but it’s all lighthearted banter to him. Entertain his love for conversation, indulge him in his need for romance, and be patient with his indecisiveness if you want to enjoy the pluses of dating a Libra!
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